Product Description What do partners do after a fight? If they're like most people, they apologize: "I'm sorry. I had a bad day and I took it out on you." Or, they wake up the next morning and pretend that nothing happened, hoping their partner will do the same. In neither case do they talk about the fight. They're too afraid that doing so will simply rekindle it--and they're right; it probably would. But since they don't talk about the fight, nothing ever really gets resolved. Daniel B. Wile, author of Couples Therapy and After the Honeymoon, devotes this entire book to an analysis of a single night in the life of a couple, Marie and Paul. By tapping into their self-talk (their ongoing conversations with themselves), he discovers what starts, escalates, and rekindles fights--and also, what potentially allows for a useful conversation about a fight. Wile reveals the half-thoughts and half-feelings that generally go unnoticed: the anxious flashes; depressive waves; two-second, self-directed diatribes; and two-second mental divorces. Review "I highly recommend it to therapists but also to researchers interested in the impact of concealing personal feelings in relationships." ( Contemporary Psychology 1995-09-24) "For the seasoned therapist the book is an adventure into the mind of the therapist's journey, always interesting and at time s even amusing. For the less experienced therapist, the book fully and clearly describes major relationship dynamics as they are played out in the life of a couple, while presenting a very detailed therapeutic approach....the book is an extremely useful aid for those doing couple therapy." ( Journal of Sex Education and Therapy 1995-09-24) About the Author DANIEL B. WILE is a psychologist in the private practice of individual and couples therapy in Oakland, CA. A Diplomate in Clinical Psychology of the American Board of Professional Psychology, Dr. Wile earned his A.B. at the University of Chicago and his Ph.D. at the University of California at Berkeley. He has published on psychotherapeutic theory as well as on couples therapy, and has given numerous talks, courses, demonstrations, and workshops on couples therapy.